Hey friend,

I’ve been cursed.

Not in the storybook sense—no witches, no voodoo dolls—but in a much more real and insidious way.

For years, in my lowest moments, I’d cry out, “I’m cursed!” Half-joking, of course—because curses aren’t real… right?

But are they?

I’m here to tell you: curses are real.​
​100%.

And yes, I’ve been cursed.
And so have you.

I don’t say that to scare you—I say it to wake you up.

Because the curse I’m talking about isn’t superstition. It’s a belief—
a lie so convincing that it ends up running your life.
Not just your life, but probably your parents’ lives… and their parents before them.

This is what makes it a generational curse.​
You inherit it the same way you inherit eye color or a jawline.

My dad had it.
My grandparents had it.
And unless I do something… my kids will have it too.

This curse—the one that shaped every career move I’ve made, every romantic partner I’ve chosen, every financial panic I’ve lived through—comes down to four words:

That’s the curse.
A spell cast long ago on the Perzow family line, maybe for thousands of years.

I call those four words the dictator in my head—the master belief behind all the others.
The voice behind every “Why the hell did I do that?” moment of my life.

And maybe you’ve got a dictator too. Something like:

• “I am not loved.”
• “I am not enough.”
• “I do not belong.”
• “I am too much.”
• “I am not wanted.”

Whatever your version is, I want you to know this:

The way out is the same.​
And that’s what I’m here to share with you.

Step 1: Identify the Curse

This curse isn’t your money problems.
It’s not your breakups, your stress, or that toxic boss you keep attracting.

Those are just symptoms.

The curse is the belief that keeps manifesting those symptoms over and over again.

In other words, the problem you think you’re seeing…
​isn’t the real problem.​
(And it isn’t even a problem at all—but we’ll get to that soon.)

Every external challenge must be traced back to the root.
And the root is always in the mind.

You don’t have a money problem.
You have a belief problem.

You don’t have a relationship problem.
You have a belief problem.

You don’t have a purpose problem.
You have a belief problem.

You don’t have a health problem.
You have a belief problem.

And behind all of these “problems” is one core belief—your dictator—calling the shots.

Once you meet it, your reality has a chance to change.

Want health?
Change the belief that created dis-ease.

Want money?
Change the belief that created lack.

Step 2: Call It What It Is — A Lie

Most people go their entire lives without ever confronting their dictator.
That’s why the curse gets passed down.

My father died never meeting his.

He was a successful CEO. Retired wealthy at 74.
Ten years later, he died penniless.

When I asked what happened, he said:

Do you hear the insanity in that?

Even on his deathbed, he thought the solution was out there—in the world.
He believed he could’ve fixed his life with a better trade.

He never once looked within.

This is how curses survive.

If we don’t confront the dictator, we pass the curse to our children.

My father didn’t die broke because of bad investments.
He died broke because he never challenged the belief at the center of his life:

And when that’s your core belief, you’ll always find your way back to a life where safety is compromised—
including financial ruin.

So… are you ready to look your dictator in the face?

If you're still reading, I think you are.

And here’s what you need to know:

“I am not safe”? Bullshit.
“I am not loved”? Bullshit.
“I am not enough”? Bullshit.

But here’s the catch:
​Knowing it’s a lie isn’t enough.

We’ve all stood in the mirror repeating affirmations like “I love myself.”​
But if your life was a book, it probably wouldn’t read like a love story.

Because while your mouth says I love you,​
your dictator whispers, No you don’t.

Naming the lie is essential—it’s the key in the ignition.​
But the key doesn’t drive the car.

That’s why therapy alone often doesn’t work.
We sit in offices analyzing our pain, only to walk out more fluent in our suffering—
but no less ruled by it.

If we could think our way out of this, we’d all be healed by now.

True healing begins not when the lie is understood—
but when it’s felt, exposed, and released.
When you move from head to heart.
From resistance to reverence.

Step 3: Stop Fighting or Surrendering — Become a Student

Most people, when faced with their dictator, do one of two things:

They fight—
Hustle, perform, prove, strive—
All in the name of chasing validation or avoiding shame.

Or they surrender—
Not spiritually, but in defeat.
They resign themselves to a life of quiet suffering. They let themselves go.

I’m a fighter.
Hell, I named my son Rocky.

I fought my dictator for years—even after I met it.
Because I thought it was the enemy.
Something to exorcise like a demon.

Let me be clear: fighting doesn’t work.

When my dad said, “I should’ve invested in bonds,”​
that was just another form of fighting.
Still trying to outsmart the dictator.
Still playing the wrong game.

Here’s the clue:

And here’s the truth: you can’t win that war.

You might fight like hell. You might hustle, push, outperform, and outwork that belief for years.
But eventually, it wins.
Because belief always manifests.

If you believe “I am not safe,” your life will find a way to reflect it—
no matter how hard you try to outrun it.

Fighting just delays the inevitable.
And in the process, you end up exhausted, burned out, disconnected, and wondering why nothing ever feels like enough.

Surrender doesn’t work either. Giving up never will.

And the most dangerous form of surrender?
Is mistaking the dictator’s voice for your own—
surrendering who you truly are for who you think you have to be.

The dictator speaks in two words: Sacrifice and Earn.​
And it’s so sneaky that it makes you believe:

• “I have to earn love.”
• “I have to sacrifice my joy to be a good parent.”
• “I have to earn rest.”
• “I have to suffer to deserve happiness.”
• “I have to give more than I receive.”
• “I have to prove myself before I can relax.”

That’s not humility.
That’s surrendering to the wrong master.

Fighting and surrendering are just two different roads to the same dead end.

But there is another path:

Not a fighter.
Not a victim.
A student.

Curious. Humble. Open.

When I stopped fighting and started asking,

Step 4: Access the Tech of the Divine

Being a student isn’t glamorous.
It’s awkward. And it’s uncomfortable as hell.
You sit. You feel. You observe. You write.

For someone like me—who built a life on fixing, performing, and doing—this was brutal.
But I did it.
I sat with the panic. The shame. The survival-mode anxiety.

And then I wrote. A lot.

At first, it was letters to my dictator—angry, confused, curious.
And then… something started writing back.

Not literally. But energetically. A Presence.

Let me preface this next part by saying:
​Something shifts when you stop fighting your dictator and start learning from it.​
When you sit with it as a student—not a slave, not a soldier, but a student—
you tune into a different frequency.

It’s like switching radio stations.
Less static. More signal.
That’s when something higher gets through.
It’s hard to “English” what this access is.
But it’s real.

So when I say something started writing back, that was only possible because I had made the shift.
From fighter to student.
And once you meet your dictator with reverence, not resistance—
you unlock certain superpowers.

You can call that something God.
Love. Spirit. Source.
The name doesn’t matter.
​The experience does.

Here’s what I came to see:

The curse wasn’t a punishment.
​It was a portal.

Every failure, heartbreak, and rock bottom wasn’t a tragedy.
It was a perfectly designed feedback loop—
showing me the real source of my pain:
​My beliefs.

That’s what I mean when I say “God.”
Not a man in the sky. Not religion.
But a kind of spiritual technology.

If your thoughts are the film, and your life is the screen—
then God is the projector.

You’re not being judged or punished when “bad” things happen.
You’re simply being shown what you believe.

It’s not God creating the pain.
It’s your beliefs painting a painful picture.
God’s role—the projector’s role—is to lovingly reveal those beliefs
so you can choose again.

It’s the most merciful technology there is.
All of it is designed for your healing.
For your happiness.

Pain isn’t punishment.
It’s God flashing on the screen:

“You’re following the wrong voice.”
“You’re listening to your dictator.”

And the moment that lands—
not as a nice idea, but as a truth you feel in your bones—
you unlock the one choice that changes everything:

Choose again.​
Choose the voice of Love.

This sacred technology exists for that one purpose:
To help you choose Love over fear.
Truth over illusion.
Freedom over control.

That’s the whole point of this curriculum we call life.
It’s why we were gifted a mechanism to see our thoughts—
so we could choose loving ones…
and reflect back a life that loves us in return.

Your Problems Are Invitations

So if your life feels full of problems right now—
how blessed are you.

It means your life is full of invitations to wake up.

Waking up doesn’t mean enlightenment on a mountaintop.
It just means realizing you’ve been given a sacred technology:
The ability to witness your beliefs…
and choose again.

Some people are still staring at the wall, wondering why they’re miserable.
But you—you’re being shown the door.
And given the instruction manual for how to walk through it.

If you’re ready to step through that door—
to learn how to harness this divine technology—
​I’m hosting a 3-hour live workshop in Venice Beach on September 25.​

Together, we’ll walk through five powerful steps:

• Identify the Curse
• Expose the Lie
• End the War
• Receive the Medicine
• Reclaim the Truth

If something in this message cracked something open in you—
that’s not random.

That’s your signal.
Come walk through it with me.

With love and truth,
Tony

P.S. If this message resonated with you, here are a few ways to walk this path beside me:

• 🕊️ Join the Fear to Love Fellowship​
  A free weekly gathering where we blend A Course in Miracles and 12-step-style truth-telling. We meet every Wednesday at 6:30 PM PT to share, witness, and undo fear together. No need to speak—just come listen.
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• 🎭 Attend Not Enough Live​
  I’ll be guiding a powerful 3-hour in-person workshop in Venice Beach, CA on September 25th at the Electric Lodge Theater. It’s a deep dive into one of fear’s most convincing disguises: not enoughness.​
  👉 Get your ticket​
• 🏢 Bring me into your business​
  If you’re in the corporate world, I teach leaders and teams how to negotiate, influence, and connect—not through fear, but through love. Magnetic communication. Conscious commerce. Co-creation over conquest.
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• 🌄 Join the Topanga Retreat waitlist​
  This January, I’ll be hosting a 3-day, 2-night immersive retreat in Topanga Canyon. Cold plunges, warm fires, deep truth-telling, sacred silence, and a return to who you were before the world got its hands on you.
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